Am I Really?

In the last six months I have been told twice, by the same person, that I have an "attacking" personality.  I guess when I approach people I "attack" them.

Interestingly enough, I have never been told this before in my life.  I am still confused as to how I am "attacking."  I have struggled with this for a couple of days now.  Do I really attack?  How should I be different?

I have realized I could possibly be calmer in certain situations, but other than that I think it is something these others (since the first person says 'others' have said it) need to learn to deal with from me.  I am not attacking, but do have a strong personality. I am straightforward and don't dance around the subject.  There are many personalities out there.  When in a work situation, you do need to deal with all sorts.  I have been told I have to "baby" others--at least that's what I consider it.  If I have to baby their personality, shouldn't they have to learn to deal with strong personalities and quit being the pity party?

Since this is where I get to write my thoughts, I had to share.  I am still very confused when I have been asked to be in a management-type position how I am not allowed to manage, but asked to baby them?  It's all a little strange.  I am not sure it's worth it some days.  I pray I can figure it out.  Otherwise, I am tired of being told how wrong I do things.