Here's an example of every day thoughts--what I torture myself with...
As I sit here folding socks (good, relaxing Sunday activity) all I can think of was when Ethan was SO mad at me because he didn't have matching socks in the morning when he was getting ready for school. I was working full time and matching socks was always on the bottom of the list. I may have mentioned this experience before, because every time I think about it I feel SO guilty. I feel like I am the worst mom because this poor child had to spend part of his short life WITHOUT matching socks!! I know it sounds silly, but it is an example of my daily torture.
Oh Kim. I don't think anyone can ever match the capacity a mother has to feel guilty, and yours is amped up these days. You have to know Ethan is not currently holding this against you. Love you!
ReplyDeleteI think the fact that you worry a feed some guilt about this doesn't show a bad mom but a wonderful and caring mom!
ReplyDeleteMatching socks is torture. I threw all mine away and bought two weeks worrh of the same black socks and two weeks worth of the same white socks.Now I don't have to struggle matching, I can easily tell whether they are black or white. My children were horrified. Samuel retrieved my discarded socks from the trash because I was wasteful. Diana is embarrassed for me because there are times (like today) when she believes I should be wearing navy, not black. They will eventually get over it as I'm sure Ethan has already. There are many more important things to do instead of matching socks :) Don't torure yourself with that regret, you were doing much better things as a Mom. We have to choose the best things to do with what time we have.
ReplyDeleteI found a cartoon I had on my fridge for years. A poor mom sitting by a card table with her forhead on the table. socks on top - on the floor just everwhere around her - the caption "It finely happened - none of them match" It happens to the best of us - all is well.
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It's actually in style to wear mismatch socks now so my 5 yr old tells me..
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